A Year Round Grinch? No I'm Enforcing Boundaries.

I must admit that sometimes I feel like a year round Grinch. However, as I have examined not all but many that have gravitated towards me they get a level of gratification from the comfort of the conversation that they receive. I didn't assume this on my own I did indeed have the audacity to ask and some I did not ask because they volunteered that information in that they feel so comfortable talking with me and that makes me feel so good. However, after constantly listening to other people's problems or life's issues the photo of the woman above is exactly what I feel like on the inside. I literally feel as if I am a ball of emotions that are about to let loose and scream because I have made myself too emotionally available to listening to others' people's problems. Let me just say that I am a huge believer in therapy and counseling so I do encourage people that I come into contact with that clearly I am not a licensed professional and I think you would benefit more if you put that Medical Insurance too use because in fact if you are in the United States we are required by Law to have it. In other words' please stop telling me your problems because I have my own and you need to speak with someone who is trained or get paid on how to deal with your issues and who get paid enough to take your issues home with them. I hate to sound completely insensitive but too me the most insensitive thing is that people who are like me that are extremely sensitive to certain things continue to make themselves available to leeches and bloodsuckers. My New Year will not consist of babysitting other people's issues and being taken advantage of by those who come in contact with me I just have to be bold and enforce those boundaries and don't feel guilty about protecting my own sense of sanity. Throughout this entire year and throughout my past I have been entangled in other people issues and I found myself motivating people, encouraging people and cheering on others to get through their hurdles but now I seem to be the one that has run out of gas. My energy has become depleted and though many of those relationships I have seemed to break free from its as if I continue to attract the same type of people. I have become convinced of two things: 1) I definitely need to learn more about the Law of Attraction and 2) Is this natural motivation and exhortation that I offer to others' a gift/talent if so why do I feel like I am the one who has received the short end of the stick? I have found that people can be sooooo DRAINING. I hate the feeling of being drained after I encounter certain conversations. The other person feels so refreshed and I feel as if I have gotten into the WWE Ring with the best woman athlete such Awesome Kong or the late Chyna and I have been whipped and beaten from one end of the ring to the next. If this doesn't make matters worse these types of people actually want to be in my daily circle and I am like no way. I cannot survive this relationship/friendship. I am going to be more committed to taking better emotional care of myself. I am going on a serious quest for the year 2017 well actually I have already started. I am creating boundaries that if in fact you call me and if I feel like you want to release and get something off your chest I will not answer the phone. I had already started to incorporate this notion and the leeches had gotten smart to what I was doing so they started the conversation asking about my day and showing a false interest in what my day had been like and once they had my attention they swooped in and dropped their issues of the day. In my mind I would think, I just got tricked then sucked in at the same time. I am thinking if I ever get free of certain people I am never getting back entangled with them. I hope that I would be wise enough to identify that type of individual characteristics and not get entangled with someone new with those same "Energy Draining" attributes. So in short, I am taking back control of my air space aka my personal space. Everyone or Anyone will not be allowed in my personal circle. If you have to incorporate these boundaries also you are not wrong!!!! Let those other people find someone else they can drain. Lastly, be okay if they see you in a negative manner or saying things such as you have changed. Don't feel badly if they talk bad about you, your focus needs to be getting healthy emotionally and staying healthy emotionally. Remember, you are your first priority. 

Develop Tunnel Vision, Laser Your Focus

Develop Tunnel Vision, Laser Your Focus and you will have NO EXCUSES!!!

It is very important that when you are working towards your goals that you learn to keep your eyes straight ahead and achieve the task at hand. In this busy life that most of us live in, it is so easy to get distracted, complacent or give up on our desires, purpose, destiny or goals. We should always be working toward something to make our lives better but often times that just isn't the case, because we allow things around us to obtain more of our attention than what is straight ahead and that is the destination or desired goal. When I look at this tunnel I could only imagine the fear and anxiety that would be going through my mind if I were to walk through it I would simply want to escape, but just correlate that with reality, you will have some fear and anxiety being closed in a mediocre life knowing that something greater resides within you fighting your procrastination, laziness or doubt just dying to get out and positively affect the world but we allow ourselves to become overwhelmed by fear and distraction that we never reach our end goal. So choose to focus and develop tunnel vision so you will have no more excuses in achieving the goals you set for yourself. Vision really does simplify everything else, in life, because it directs you to where you should be going!

Mental Toughness

Your Mind doesn't go where you don't push it!

One of the most rewarding things but yet the toughest thing to do is to train the mind. Oh yes train the mind, it can be done. Successful people are not developed and relentless because they are lazy they become successful because they are not afraid to look a challenge in the face and put in the hard work and countless hours to achieve the goal they want to reach. Through observation, I have gathered that a lot of accomplished people have spent time focusing and for most of us that would take a lot of work if you suffer from getting distracted really easily like myself. Something that I found to be very beneficial is repeating a mantra 'the strength of your mind will always be your driving force to achieving anything'. In the busy lifestyles many of us live, what better time than now, then to began to strengthen the mind. Detox the mind and the way to do that is to have some quiet time to yourself and when you are sitting quietly at first your thoughts are going to bounce around and they may even rage like a bull but it is a process, a training process, the more often you do it the more quiet and calm the mind can become. Having peace within your mind indirectly grants you a level of mental toughness needed to get through adverse times as well as to achieve goals.

Invest in your Ideas, build your tomorrow or someone else will.

Ask yourself, if what your doing today is getting you closer to where you want to be tomorrow?

Many of us can look at this picture and we could truly ask ourselves this question and statistically for many of us, we unfortunately become boggled down with the stress of everyday life that we lack the time or the determination to make goals and dreams happen for ourselves because let's face it most of us have families that we have to provide for and we just lack the time to do it, appear to be the excuses we usually give ourselves. After much evaluation and observation of those around me and others I notice that the one thing that hold most of us back is #1 Fear #2 Discipline. Fear is that invisible troll that none of us can physically see but plagues our hopes, dreams and destroy our ideas before we can even have an opportunity to even attempt to write a plan for this idea or goal. When you have an idea it is very important that you write those ideas down. Secondly, I would suggest that you become educated in the area of your idea, for instance if you have the goal of owning your own cafe it is important that you educate yourself about the inner and outer workings of a cafe and entrepreneurship. Along with doing that, you may be an amazing chef but you are not the most business savvy person in your area to run a business so this is when you would have to make the executive decision too ensure that have people too run the business aspect while you run the kitchen. However, I would definitely suggest to those with this vision of opening a cafe or any vision whatsoever to align your natural knowledge with your supernatural knowledge which are your ideas, so that you can eventually make this idea or dream a reality as well as a success. If you get one salt and pepper shaker at a time just know that you can do it. Adversity greets all of us at some point in life, some of us more frequently than others but that is when you have to become determined and inspired to make things happen for yourself. I didn't believe that ideas are recycled but they are, at least that's my opinion. Have you ever had one of those moments when you had an idea and you thought because you didn't have any money to fund the idea or you thought of an idea but you just let it slip your mind because you didn't know who to turn too in order to make this idea become a reality, so you no longer entertained the idea and then at some point in the future your sitting back nonchalantly and are watching the television and you see an infomercial with the same exact idea you had but you was unwilling to care and nurture the idea, so someone else did. Don't let anyone else profit off of your idea. Invest in yourself and work hard to get where you want to be in the future.

Ability, Motivation and Attitude. How far will you go?

This word capable takes me back to my days as young child, socializing in the single file lines of my elementary school halls in which I was being a regular kid, constantly being told too keep quiet. be still, keep your hands too yourself, etc. I recall the days of serving in after school detention because I wouldn't apply myself and follow directions. everyone could see what I was unable to comprehend at such a young age and that was my capabilities. Unfortunately, I still feel as if there are days that I don't take my instructors advice and fully apply myself. We have the ability and the capabilities to do such great things but often times it takes other people to see it within us the very ability that we can't see within ourselves. Most of us never scratch the surface of our potential and what we are capable of because we lack encouragement, direction or most of all motivation. Motivation is something that drives you to do something but the way motivation works it can be internal for some and for others' they may obtain their motivation by factors outside of themselves. No matter if motivation is internal or externally driven for you we all need to be motivated. Those who are internally motivated on their own to work toward goals or accomplishment usually have no need for an entire cheer leading team, a life coach and constant encouragement. However, I myself am one of those people who has to have external stimulation to become motivated to proceed into my capabilities. To do so I surround myself with people who push me. I listen to motivational and inspirational cd's to get me pumped. I recall there was only one thing in my life I never needed motivation or encouragement to do and that was to practice, perform and compete with the two instruments that I was an amazing student of and that was being Clarinetist. That is the only thing that I didn't have to be told the importance of investing my time, energy and effort into it. It was my first love, my outlet my escape from the age of 12-19. I traveled and performed in musical competitions on the local and state level. For me as talented as I was my attitude was horrible. I was your typical rebellious teenager but I also knew that was the one thing that I was truly good at doing and that was playing those two musical instruments and loving the true Art of Music. I accomplished many things musically even, got awarded a music scholarship to college but because my attitude was not the greatest my talent alone wasn't enough to keep me at the top of my game. So, whatever your passionate about or whatever goals you are working towards just remember, know that you are capable, stay determined or motivated and have a positive attitude while on the journey.

Ideas

Everything that is created from an invention to a business started with an idea. The chair you are sitting in, the computer device that your reading this post on began with someone's thought or idea. Have you ever had an idea and chose not to act on the idea because you thought that maybe it was kind of corny or you didn't know how to go about getting that idea or invention into action without any money or business plan then you forget about it and all of a sudden you are watching television one day then you notice your very idea is being paraded around by someone else on an infomercial??? How sad and fooled you feel because you had thrown your idea away and chose not to act on it but I have come to realize that ideas unused are your trash that becomes someone else's treasure so be sure to write out your ideas and never be afraid to act on your ideas it may just be the invention the world has been waiting for to make the difference that needs to be made.

Derailed by Fear

It is so easy to have dreams and goals but slow down as if we are proceeding with caution  because we fear the unknown. It is my belief that we fear the unknown of failure, disappointment, defeat and ridicule more than we fear the actual feeling of fear itself. It is amazing too me how the human mind proceeds to purpose, destiny and success with caution but we do not proceed with caution towards things that we know may present us with long-term negative affect or destruction. I know because most of us if we are honest with ourselves have done this before, but I encourage you today to step into your greatness. Don't be afraid to succeed, flourish or be nourished into your best self. Rome wasn't built in a day and nor will your vision but you must not be afraid to build it one brick at a time. If you tremble with fear of failing, not getting it right or whatever, map out your blue print and begin. Proceed forward as a builder and build towards your destiny, with welcoming arms of that trembling, embracing that fear because it will take that much more courage in order to conquer that fear but it may take you laying one brick at a time until you are no longer bound to that fear.

Encouragement of the Day!

The rewarding parts of the Journey of life is the ability to get back up again and continue to move forward and not submitting to defeat but however learning from it.

Your future is created by what you do today, not what you do tomorrow!

Your future is created by what you do today, not what you do tomorrow!
This particular quote really doesn't need to be elaborated upon much because it is true in every aspect of the statement. It is very important that we not put off the things for tomorrow that we can do on today. This statement speaks volumes of motivation to people like me because I am naturally a procrastinator and I have to be reminded often until it is second nature for me to do the things that are in my control on today and not wait until tomorrow. I do believe by enacting this quote this will help an individual develop better habits and better habits leads to a more productive or fulfilled journey. 

Dreams don't work unless you do! -E.Mays

Dreams don't work unless you do! -E.Mays
It is such a myth if we think that we can be successful or achieve our desired goals with little to no work and that is simply false. Whatever you do, get motivated and don't be afraid to invest time, energy and effort into making your goals or dreams a reality. I recall when I was younger I always had a dream of being a college graduate but I learned the hard way that enrolling in school wasn't enough I had to actually work while I was enrolled in order to get the desired outcome of actually being a graduate, so I had to do the things that were necessary, such as get a tutor, put in extra hours of reading or studying for my test, choosing not to hang out with my friends because I knew that I had deadlines too meet. Those sacrifices paid off I ended performing so well, I obtained a scholarship and was able to obtain several degrees. So don't be afraid to invest in yourself and your future, the return will be greater than you can imagine! 

Great Things come to those who don't wait

Great things come to those who don't wait!

I would love to think that we had forever to complete task but the truth is, in reference to accomplishing goals, we don't have infinity to change our situation. We are given 24 hours each day to do what we set our mind to achieve. The time to begin is now. I am the princess of procrastination, I won't say queen because I have a close relative that waits until the last minute to do absolutely everything, including carpooling the kids to school on time. However, research and study has shown that some of the most successful people in the world do not wait around for someone else to make things happen for them. I do not believe that an individual have to be overly aggressive to complete there goals, especially if that person has an introverted personality but I do believe that you have to apply effort in developing good habits to get you there and managing your time, aka not procrastinating would be at the top of the list. Whatever goals you would like to achieve no one else can do it for you. If that means that you must find out what motivates you to get you up and moving let that be your fuel starting out and in order to sustain that energy you must apply good habits such as: Goal Setting, Time Management, and Implementation. So whatever you do, just get moving because good things definitely come to those who don't wait on there goals to just achieve themselves.

Great Things come to those who don't wait

Great things come to those who don't wait!

I would love to think that we had forever to complete task but the truth is, in reference to accomplishing goals, we don't have infinity to change our situation. We are given 24 hours each day to do what we set our mind to achieve. The time to begin is now. I am the princess of procrastination, I won't say queen because I have a close relative that waits until the last minute to do absolutely everything, including carpooling the kids to school on time. However, research and study has shown that some of the most successful people in the world do not wait around for someone else to make things happen for them. I do not believe that an individual have to be overly aggressive to complete there goals, especially if that person has an introverted personality but I do believe that you have to apply effort in developing good habits to get you there and managing your time, aka not procrastinating would be at the top of the list. Whatever goals you would like to achieve no one else can do it for you. If that means that you must find out what motivates you to get you up and moving let that be your fuel starting out and in order to sustain that energy you must apply good habits such as: Goal Setting, Time Management, and Implementation. So whatever you do, just get moving because good things definitely come to those who don't wait on there goals to just achieve themselves.

Encouragement of the Day!

Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words, keep your words positive because your words become your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values, keep your values positive because your values become your destiny. -Ghandi

Motivation of the Day!

Winners are not people who never fail but people who never quit!

Encouragement of the Day

When you focus on problems, you'll have more problems. When you focus on possibilities, you'll have more opportunities.

-Kushand Wizdom

It is so easy for us to become lost in our world of problems but what separates the STRONG from the WEAK is often times the difference in how we see things. Sometimes those who are a bit weaker in the mind tend to dwell on the negative aspect of things but those who are stronger tend to have a mindset of optimism. Its like the concept of looking at the glass half full vs.half empty and vice versa. I believe that it is human nature to automatically think the worst, when a problem first arises but the human mind can be trained, just like the human body can be trained. We can train the human thoughts but that takes time. You have to feed your mind positive thoughts until your natural response evolves into optimism and not the worst outcomes so quickly. So commit yourself to learn how to be optimistic and hopeful and the shift will slowly take place to become a more positive you. Happy Thursday!

Encouragement of the Day!

The Secret to getting ahead is getting Started!
When you remain motionless your not being productive and when your not productive you are less likely to fulfill your goals, so lets get moving and get started in achieving our goals.

Encouragement of the Day!

"Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is your strength." -Ghandi
We all face adversity in life, some of us face more adversity than others but whether you face small or large challenges only you can ultimately decide how that resistance will be utilized. You can turn it into fuel or you can allow your challenger to become your captor and submit fully to adversity and become stuck and stagnant. I would like to encourage that sometimes it is so normally to get stopped in your tracks or journey by the things of life but time will pass and that is one of many things of this world scientist and geniuses alike have no control over and that is time and nature, neither can be stopped so no matter how long you have been stopped in your tracks by life's challenges choose to eventually get up and be productive. You owe it to yourself to contribute your gift, talents and purpose to the world.
-Happy Sunday

Encouragement of the Day!

"Do it now, sometimes later becomes never!"-Unknown

I thought this quote was so fitting to those who struggle with procrastination. I myself often times struggle with procrastination, probably more than I would care to admit but don't let procrastination rob you of your potential and dreams. If you can't find a reason to make things happen create a reason to make things happen for yourself. You owe it to yourself to live and enjoy what you are doing while you are here. Everything doesn't have to be about money however it can be hard to spend alot of time enjoying doing what we love even if it does not generate us alot of money because society has created this image that nothing is worth seeking unless it draws in alot of money. Your love should come from the passion or fulfillment your receive not the love of the amount of money you will receive from it. So get started on that thing you love and don't let society money shame you about the revenue of your passion.

Provoking Thought of the Day!

A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.-Albert Einstein
I love this quote above by Albert Einstein, it is so true. Many of us are so afraid of failing that we become unwillingly to step out and attempt our goals, dreams or desires because we fear failing, we fear making mistakes or we fear how others' will perceive us if things don't workout. I tell you sometimes it can be more of a burden to be stagnant and have your mind clouded with regrets and what if's than to simply just step out and take a chance. Sometime the overwhelming picture of where we ultimately would like to end up overshadows our attempt to just take baby steps, just one step at a time. We all have greatness within us but let that be your fuel and motivation and not your fear!

Provoking Thought of the Day!

The tragedy in life doesn't lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy lies in having no goal to reach. 
-Benjamin Emays

Motivation of the Day!

You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great. -Zig Zigler

Growing as a Newly Published Arthor

Today I went to my very first Writers Group Meeting and it was so amazing. I was proud of myself for one stepping outside of my box and doing something totally different with my daily routine and networking with other writers, very experienced and seasoned writers, in which all have been writing longer than I have been alive. This was new, challenging yet rewarding because I am a true creature of habit and Change and I never really got along to well. So for that I am proud of myself. The second reason why I am so proud of myself is because I read one of my non-published poetry pieces aloud to the group and the floor was open for suggestions, critiques and feedback. I am so proud of myself for this as well because for me it was all about trusting myself that I was okay to let that wall down to let others in on something so precious too me which is my writing. I really enjoyed the Writers Group and I am looking forward to sharing more of my written work with the group, as it will help me to become better at my craft.
If you are a writer or you have a particular niche that you have a special interest in and are just beginning or experienced maybe you should research and find meetup groups in your area that you can participate in, develop yourself more or invest in others so that you too can help to create a sense of purpose in yourself or others.

Self Challenge....50,000 words to build focus

Debating about doing a 50,000 word challenge for my new writing project that I am currently working on. Since I have already began working on the new writing project. I am trying to find ways to focus and enforce the ideas of strict deadlines in my world of creativity. If I do this I wonder if my creativity would be the same? When I say creativity I mean the quality. Not everything that is written will be published, in fact most of it won't become published but to say the least I wonder if strict deadlines can help build my focus as a writer? Will have to test the theory and possibly take you guys along on the journey with me. Happy Tuesday!